There is in Abigail’s words sure evidence of a spiritual view of things and an enlightened state; her chief concern is for the cause of the Lord. She has followed closely David's career up to now, and she understands it, and what he is set for.
This is a great step in anger management. Bite it back, suppress it, subdue it. Turn to something else, because you are about to say something or do something which will visit you many times for the rest of your life: that you broke a friendship, that you hurt a member of your family, that you inflicted unreasonable and disproportionate punishment in some shape or form on somebody. What an argument for us to use against ourselves, should we ever be carried away! Do I really want this to mar the future when God leads me on? That there will be a broken relationship, that there will be scars and hurt, caused by my losing self-control for a single hour?
We say to ourselves, ‘We are heaven bound. We cannot lose our salvation if we truly love the Lord. We are going to be guarded and kept by him through all kinds of circumstances, and he will hold us close to him, and take us surely across that eternal threshold into the glory everlasting. We are like jewels wrapped in linen cloth. It is the enemies of God, who will be jettisoned out of the way and judged. How can we be taken up by temptations of anger, and rudeness, unpleasantness, or vengeance, or anything like that when we have such a calling and such a destiny; when we have such a certain future, such a reward, and such riches?
When we look for a wife, we look for somebody who has spiritual priorities, who is not afraid to humbly correct us when we go wrong, someone who is all for the things of the Lord, and who obviously reads the Scripture, is familiar with its teaching, and has light and deep understanding. These are the issues to be impressed by in a potential spouse, and to pray to the Lord for, and to seek out.