Abraham’s servant now plucks up courage to ask whose daughter Rebekah is. This is a very important matter, because Abraham has clearly instructed him only to find a wife from his kindred (verse 4), and he has taken an oath to do just that.
So far, we see a number of rules for guidance on whom to marry in the record of Genesis 24. We must realise that God’s will is paramount, and we must be aware of the seriousness of the matter. We must pray much, and sincerely, without our minds having been made up, and our sights firmly set. We must not rush, nor allow biological attraction to take the whole matter over, so that we become incapable of reading the other indications of guidance. Obviously we must not engage in too-familiar expressions of love until a courtship is very clearly of the Lord, knowing that to do this is to throw away all sense.
We must care far more about godliness than physical attractiveness, gifts and even earthly prospects. We must see a bond of real friendship forming, based not on such things as emotional sharing techniques or feigned behaviour, but based on the observation of each other in deeds that reflect character.
Calvin nicely says something this justifies baubles but they better live in a tent in the desert also.